Title: Love: Making Relationships for over 50’s
Author: Freddie C. Holmes
Publisher: PageTurner Press and Media
ISBN: 978-1638715009
Genre: Self-Improvement
Pages: 384
Reviewed by: David Allen
Hollywood Book Reviews
This beautiful and stirring book, filled with useful suggestions and telling anecdotes, is for those of us and there are many! embarking on dating and romance after age 50.
This is a cautionary manual, providing great hope for the future of romance in our lives. ‘Cautionary’ in the sense that the reader is urged to explore his or her readiness to set out on a new relationship, to be aware of the risks and benefits that accompany new liaisons after midlife, and, having done so, to maximize the opportunities for gratification and success.
The book, nearly 400 pages long, surely represents a wealth of experience as well as intensive research. Clearly this is not a roadmap for the impulsive or merely intrepid; rather, the book is a thoughtful journey toward better, saner and more sophisticated romance.
Turns out that indeed, youth is sometimes wasted on the young. The older person, benefitting from life experience, is better positioned to know what kind of relationship and relationship experience is and is not for him/her. Armed with this hard-won knowledge, the veteran of marriage and divorce can set about consciously deciding which kind of partner is optimal for him or her. These decisions are neither petty nor banal: Is the reader seeking a series of one-night stands, or a more lasting long-term relationship? What self-knowledge can the return romantic adventurer import into subsequent relationships? To what extent do potential partners match on demographics, life experience, preferences, family of origin, education, and a host of other critically important variables?
Love: Making Relationships for over 50’s, is au courant, timely. After all, time is of the essence! The book supplies everything one needs to know about online dating, offering excellent and user-friendly suggestions for creating an online profile, for listing personal preferences, hobbies, vocations and avocations on a variety of dating platforms. More traditional methods of meeting a future significant other are comprehensively covered as well, so readers seeking ideas for places to meet and greet will also find a wealth of suggestions here.
Another of the excellent features of this volume is its gender-attuned advice: after all, men are from Mars, women from Venus, and each needs to know what turns on and what turns off the other. Readers will also enjoy the very sensitive and human approach that the author advises toward the romantic care and handling! of others: take your time, be considerate, communicate, and perhaps most of all, be kind and compassionate. Of course, most of this readily applies to all of our significant relationships, not just those begun after age 50.
Author Freddie C. Holmes’ knowledge of physiologic and medical considerations relevant to aging and courtship is most impressive, and together with the emotional and spiritual advice offered here, makes for the single book readers will need in their latter-day quest for companionship and love. The book is exceedingly well written, clear throughout, and is a perfect gift for family members and friends who are returning from isolation, divorce and or less than perfect involvements.